I’m sure everyone has their go-to’s when it comes to kitchenware, beauty, fashion, etc. I definitely have a running list in each category! Kitchenaid ANYTHING for starters. But then there are those things that don’t necessarily fit under the same category (or any) but tend to share one common theme: they are must-haves if you’re a military spouse. Some of these have been gifted to me, some I have bought for other, and some I have bought for myself! They are either “necessities” for getting through the military lifestyle we live, or they are the perfect way to embrace and celebrate it. Do you have any of these?
1. Address Book
It’s no secret I’m a firm believer in stationary, especially as an Army wife. But this one isn’t actually meant for all those Basic Training love letters you write. I have found that the frequent moves (both of our family and our military friends) has created a great need for change-of-address organization. I think the Kate Spade address book is a cute and classy way to do it. However, there is a pretty cheeky address book that leaves room for nicknames and shoe sizes. And then of course there is a classic and more tame little pink book version. Take your pick and fill it up!
Speaking of moving around, you will probably fill up one of these too! A push-pin map of the USA not only gives you a visual reality-check on just how many times you’ve set up a home somewhere, but it also is a great way to document your lifetime of travel. If you want to go all-out (or if you are lucky enough to live overseas) a push-pin map of the world is also a beautiful career display.
I feel like this is the initiation gift that every military wife should receive, or gift to her husband! It’s the perfect salute and symbol of what your family stands for. Fly it proudly outside your home! And if you have an apartment and no balcony (like my first 2 years of our marriage), then hang it as a wall tapestry behind your couch or in your dining room. It’s still a beautiful way to celebrate your lifestyle and the country we are all so proud of. A final option, though it’s a little less visible, is to invest in a glass flag case and keep your folded flag displayed in it. A very classic, very respectful display of the flag! If you want the whole flagpole kit, and not just the flag, this is all you need.
For all my Army girls out there! There is a complete set of “social rules” and expectations that come with the territory of being an Army wife. And navigating through those can be tough! This guide is geared towards etiquette and social obligations, which I find to be one of the least “discussed” topics among Army wife literature. It’s not really a crash-course about acronyms and what to expect on deployments, which is what this book covers. But the social rules can be really tough to “pick up” naturally, and having a guidebook is extremely helpful.
I’m not saying this because I’m a love-book junkie (thought I am), I’m saying this because every military relationship deserves a book celebrating and coaching the tumultuously beautiful journey of a military romance. I have great respect for Gary Chapman’s interpretation of love languages and how they are spoken. Even if you’re not a military couple, a firm understanding of how to identify your preferred language, and how to speak your spouses’s is extremely important. The love languages are a true eye-opener in any relationship, but most significantly in a romantic one. Curious what your love language is? Take the test here. (Then buy the book and learn about how you give and receive love based on it!)
These are often more necessary for the military member than the spouse. But for those of us that like having matching wedding bands, or who want to feel a special connection, getting a his and hers set is the way to go! Wearing a metal wedding ring during training can sometimes be dangerous for your soldier (if he is paratrooper jumping out of an airplane, etc) and other times it can just be painful (pull-ups during PT). Having a silicone option can be useful for your soldier to slip on before a training exercise, or before he leaves for an Army school if he worries about losing his real ring. During those times, it can sometimes be nice to switch rings with him, not because you have to, but because he does.
This one is pretty basic. It’s like having a tee that supports your favorite sports team. Everyone should have at least one. Even if you’re not the kind of jewelry-wearer who wants a black and gold charm bracelet that says “Army” in capital letters, you can still have military-themed jewelry that supports your lifestyle. (Like this Morse Code bracelet). One of my favorite ways to connect with my soldier when he is gone is to wear a meaningful necklace or ring that reminds me of him. When he went to Basic/OSUT in Ft. Benning, I wore a Georgia shaped ring every day. Other times, even when he is home, I often wear sapphires, as their “Infantry Blue” color celebrates the lifestyle we have chosen together. Get creative with the meanings and treat yourself to some bling!
Not a traditional must-have, but I put on because WHO hasn’t had their fridge break an hour or two after their soldier leaves for a few weeks? *raises hands* My internet goes out when he is gone, computers crash, and of course some kind natural disaster occurs (Hurricane striking the NIGHT that he leaves). #myreallife. Anyway, Amazon can’t control the weather, but they CAN and DO offer home services. Meaning no matter where you live in the US, you can have someone come over and fix your problem when your soldier isn’t home to do so. Seriously, they have tons of services: from mounting TVs to painting the baby nursery to ASSEMBLING FURNITURE. Basically, they’re the magic fairies we always hoped would exist. Now they do. Click here to browse their services!
I feel like there are a million military wife must-haves…haha…but that’s really not true. The only thing I must have is my soldier by my side! And of course my babies. And my faith. Okay, so there are a few biggies. But the small things can be really fun too, and can make the military wife life a lot easier! What is a must-have for you? Leave a comment below, sharing your faves! Thanks for stopping by, and come back soon.
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